During this holiday season, with lots of Offbeat Homies out there getting ready for the winter, I was struck by the thought that many of you are probably getting ready to travel or spend the holidays someplace different than normal. And I thought of one of my family's traditions that anyone can start, so I wanted to share it with you!
This is Offbeat Home's archive of family posts.
I'm slated to host Christmas Eve at my home again, and last year it was fun… except for one uncle ruined it with snarky comments and flat-out negativity. He bitched about the food, the tackiness of the decorations, and the gifts people gave.
At the time, I was more concerned about hosting duties and making sure my family was having a good time, so I just tried to roll with it. Nobody in the family had the guts to say anything, except to talk about it after he left.
This year though… fuck that, I don't want any of that shit in my house.
How do I keep his horrible attitude in line in my own home?
My grandmother will not be at my wedding. The woman who was always so lively, so patient, and so strong is gone. She will never make me fresh tortillas. We will never again spend a day happily digging in her garden. She will not attend my wedding. The stroke marked her. She has only a little use of her right hand. She tires easily, she loses words in the middle of sentences. She confuses names. The worst part of this is that she knows exactly what the stroke took from her.
"By the way, What are you?" I've heard this question, referring to my "race" so many times in my almost 30 years on this planet. When I was a kid it didn't bother me. When I was a teenager, it made me sad. As an adult, it pisses me off to no end… and to be honest, it still makes me sad.
We bought our first terramundi — a traditional Etruscan money pot — when I was pregnant. Over five years, we managed to fill eight pots. We filled each one to bursting, until they were a real struggle to carry. They had already moved with us once, when we left Scotland for England two years ago. But we decided they should not make the next move. And in smashing them all open before our move, we fell even further in love with the idea that every house should have a terramundi pot.
Currently, my spouse and I choose to live TV-free. As an adult, I have a sense for how that could affect me personally and socially, but I am also the one consenting to not having a TV. I can choose to download TV shows if I want to. I can look up references to things if I'm not familiar with them. But kids don't necessarily have the choice. What I'm wondering about is how living TV-free affects your household and your social life. I'm especially curious about this for households with children, and whether (or how) you suspect it affects your kids' social life (both positively and negatively).
Holy shit, you guys. It's a big day for site news. We're welcome another editor (and readers!) to the site, adding a new character to the header, and talking about Tugboat Yards (it'll make sense in a second…)