Category Archive

dealing with judgement

How can I find a pediatrician I’m comfortable with?

I’m wondering how members of the community came to find an offbeat/accepting/respectful pediatrician within the confines of area and insurance. I’m having a hard time finding someone that will be respectful of my decisions as a parent.

Let’s ditch the “one size fits all” model of parenting

Like life, parenting is not a one-size-fits-all situation. Maybe it’s the idealist in me, but on this front I’m pretty much middle of the road on the stuff that seems to make parents pull out knives on each other. I don’t understand the obsession we seem to have, or at least that the media thrusts upon us, with tar and feathering one another. My motto is: make sure you’re educated, informed, evaluate your life and circumstances, and then get to the business of doing what works best for you and yours.

Stop wasting your time arguing with other mothers

Emma Donoghue, author of the book Room (which I found uplifiting, despite its darkness), has written a wonderful piece for the Guardian about how mothers need to back off from bitching at each other about EVERYTHING.

Why getting judgey about parenting is ok

This tweet showed up in my reader the other day: Realised something about myself today: I am not non-judgey enough to read Offbeat Families. I don’t even have kids! WTF do I know? But here’s the thing: For me, the key for reading this site isn’t to avoid all judgement, but to recognize when it’s happening.

Why doesn’t anyone ever talk about Child-Free men?

“For all the stories written by and for women on this issue — and there are markedly few — men are more likely to be absent from the public dialogue about intentional childlessness. It isn’t as if they don’t exist, so why aren’t men’s stories also being heard?”

Why age doesn’t matter in marriage or parenthood

Ruth is a twenty-seven year old mama married to a sixty-two year old man — and you thought you had to deal with looks when you go out?!

Learning to co-parent with an onbeat ex

Amy and her more Onbeat ex-husband haven’t always seen eye to eye (to put it mildly) when it came to raising their daughter, but the two now work as a team (along with their respective partners).

My son is gay

I have gone back and forth on whether I wanted to post something more in-depth about my sweet boy and his choice of Halloween costume. He dressed up as Daphne, from Scooby Doo.