Projections: falling in love with ourselves through what we see in others

Projecting on people, when it's blind, is pretty unkind. But if can catch yourself projecting — it's actually a hugely useful tool for self reflection. If you can be awake enough to the illusion to understand that the real issue isn't really about the other person, but WHAT you're projecting on that person… then you gain access to some remarkable insight into your own values, your own growth edges, and your own story.


Screw the "romantic mystique" — let's think about love

We base some of the biggest decisions of our lives on romantic love, and yet we resist actually examining love… for fear of overthinking it and somehow erasing its magic. FUCK THAT. We should all be thinking about this shit, since we all base huge life decisions on it. So, here's some of my recent research…


5 tips for online dating on Craigslist

Yes, I used Craigslist for online dating, and YES you can find ANYTHING on there. Even a spouse.

I had no idea of the reputation of Craigslist before I got on it, maybe if I had I wouldn't have used it. But I did online dating via Craigslist for probably six years and went on maybe a couple hundred dates.

Here's my advice…