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I've been writing about kink online for over a decade. I used to sometimes write under a pseudonym to protect my identity. Now that I’m older and wiser, I’ve realized that there’s nothing to be ashamed of as long as I keep it appropriate for the audience and circumstance. Do I talk about kink out of nowhere, with strangers or acquaintances, using “I” statements and sharing anecdotes? No. Never. Would I talk to my family about it? Would I be embarrassed? Would you? Here's how to explain BDSM to your family without getting embarrassed…

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Here's how not to talk to pregnant women about their bodies…

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How can our relationship survive if he doesn't want to be around me 90% of the time? Isn't him wanting to live separately just the first step in ending the relationship? Or is it already over, and I'm refusing to acknowledge it?