Mama, why are you fat?: Teaching kids about different bodies

Growing up, I was teased all the time about my weight, and it affected me profoundly. I was almost 30 before I reached a place where I could just inhabit my body without seeing it as a problem. I decided that I didn't want to view my own skin as an enemy. And I certainly don't want my children growing up thinking that everyone should look like people in magazines, or that we should all just be miserable with our physical bodies because they aren't "perfect."

We all fight this fight, and we probably all want a better world for our children to have bodies in. How do we make that happen?


How can I get people to stop complimenting my weight loss?

I get tired of people commenting on how great I look when I lose or telling me I look great because I've lost weight. Beside saying, "Please don't comment about my weight" — which can come across brisk — are there any suggestions on more succinctly letting people know their "compliments" are triggering and annoying?


Doing porn helped me love and respect my fat body

Like many other people who are fat children who become fat teenagers before being fat adults, I learned from a young age that my body was "never meant to be desirable or sexy." Fat bodies are never portrayed in the media as being sexy in a way which is positive or empowering, so there is simply very little representation for fat people as sexual beings. So, I became a sex worker, making indie amateur pornography.

I took a deep breath, hit record, and filmed some videos of myself. It was difficult and confronting. I felt bad about how I looked. Yet, with each video it got easier…


3 ways to teach kids to be body-positive

Teaching kids to be body positive is one of the most radical things we can do to further the Body Acceptance cause. By raising a generation to be critical of diet culture, body policing, and body discrimination; by raising them to love their bodies as the amazing tools they are, and to spread that love and acceptance wherever they go, we have the ability to change our culture, one beautiful child at a time.

These tips can be incredibly useful in all your dealings with young people in your life. Here are my top three tips on how to teach kids to be body-positive…