Mother, spinster, crone: No matter your path, ALL women are subject to criticism

We've all seen it: Tenacious and spectacular women — those whom Kerouac would call The Mad Ones — rounding their edges… They grow bitter, mean, judgmental. They cry when no one is watching, lost somewhere between never thinking their shit is together, and never being able to get their shit together.

Unparalleled is the devastating agony of seeming like a failure…

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Hidden Blessings: Dispatches from the midlife trenches

This weekend I am doing one of the most cliche things I've ever done: I am going to a midlife crisis workshop. Let me pull back and say it even bigger: I am a white divorced 42-year-old mom, and I am going to a midlife crisis workshop. I built a literal empire on offbeatness, but the current reality is pretty fucking stereotypical: just a confused midlife white lady going through a midlife crisis, here! NICE TO MEET YOU.

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Dye or dye not: Do you dye your grey hairs?

I've had natural dark brown hair for decades and generally not spending much time or money on my follicules. I've reached the point where my grey hairs can no longer be ignored. My reflection is further muddled with (less practical) thoughts on self-esteem and growing old and other's opinion of me and superficiality and vain-ness and expectations and ugh!

Do you dye YOUR grey hairs? Why or why not?

World making you feel old? Here's why I'm not letting it

Did you happen to see this 60th birthday boudoir shoot we posted recently? It's deliciously sexy and makes age seem irrelevant, so much so that it sent a couple of our staff members into look-inward-mode about aging. It was a tiny reminder that age is just a number and you don't have to succumb to those being-old tropes if you don't want to. For me, it was a reminder that we don't have to pre-age ourselves (AND especially not have it thrust upon us by our peers).