Why punk rock dudes can make great dads

Thanks to Siouxzi for cluing us into this movie rolling through theaters called The Other F Word. In this case, "F" stands for family, and this documentary is all about punks who have become parents. The tag line: "What happens when a generation's ultimate anti-authoritarians — punk rockers — become society's ultimate authorities — dads?" pretty much sums it up nicely. The father-focused film follows Blink-182's Mark Hoppus, Red Hot Chili Peppers' Flea, Rise Against's Tim McIlrath, and Pennywise's Jim Lindberg on their punk dad journey, which you can preview here:


Rae Alexandra brings up a great point in title piece from SF Weekly:

It's noted in the trailer that "There's nothing in the punk rock ethos that prepares you for being a dad." But, actually, we'd like to respectfully disagree. Because we think that a life spent submerged in punk rock is the best training any human could hope for when it comes to raising a child. As anyone who has ever lived in a punk house, or squatted, will tell you, you will never find a more practical human being on earth than a punk — they're good at eating on a budget, they're good at making clothes last three times longer than they should, and, by God, they can fix anything and everything, often using only regular household objects and a bit of creativity (think of them as stinkier MacGyvers). Just imagine what these people are capable of once their band has been successful and they've got some money in their pockets!

I'm personally loving the idea of this documentary — most of the punks I know are incredibly bright, intelligent, and charismatic people. I'm always a fan of not accepting what's told to you the first time around — it's good to question the information you receive so you can learn from and understand it, and a lot of punks teach their kids to do just that.

What do you guys think about the film? Do you plan to see it? You can check the official site for screenings in your area.

  1. I think I may have fallen in love with a movie for the first time in my life.

    My husband and I are definitely going to see this movie. We struggle with the same questions like: For my husband: "How are we going to explain the zombie tattoos that you have so that our kids will not have nightmares?"
    For myself: "I've dyed my hair my natural brown, but I wish every day it was pink again. Can I really be taken seriously at PTA meetings if I don't look the part of other mom's?"

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    • Never heard of the movie, but must go see it now! Also, I feel your pain. Being able to craft a bong out of an empty orange juice bottle is NOT the sort of skill you want your kids to know you have. And every day I miss my nose ring. **nostalgic sigh**

  2. YES! I read about this movie last week and can not wait to see it. A lot of it sounds very familiar to things my husband and I deal with- including tattoos on the forehead, yup.

    • My 7 month old likes to put everything new and colorful in her mouth and when she discovered the tattoos on her father's arms, she immediately licked 'em.

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  3. "Stinkier MacGyvers"? I love that line, and will use it the next time I see my punk rock, community house friends (they've moved up the world-it's like a squat house, only someone actually pays rents and utilities!)

    I love the idea of this movie. I've seen the trailer before, and totally agree with the angle the movie is coming at. I anticipate seeing it off-theater or at my local one-off dinner theater.

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  4. I want to see this! I'm sure people were asking the same question about mountain climbing, pot smoking, free spirit hippie types. Or what about swinging, jazz playing, dance loving hipsters? This is the next part of the story!

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  5. Punk rock dudes are generally pretty comfortable with bucking tradition, which can make them good dads and pretty good partners, or at least that's been my experience with my own punk-loving guy.

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    • Mine too! He has never worried that other people would think he was less of a man for changing a diaper or smooching on his kids. He loves our babies and just doesn't care if anyone thinks he's weird for feeling that way.

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    • I'd high five you for your awesome comment right now if I could. ­čÖé It's very true.

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  6. Sold! I really enjoy documentaries, especially laid back ones about people's lives, and I feel that there aren't enough examples of kickass dads in the media (a friend of mine posted an article on fb that talked about 10 ways to not be a crappy father on Father's Day, as opposed to an article celebrating the good fathers…ticked me off to no end). Add in the counter culture history and the challenges of being a good parent when you're on the road half the year and I think you have a really compelling story to tell.

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  7. When Flea talked about his children giving him life… I cried a little. My husband is a local musician and was in a bunch of bands when we first got pregnant with our little man. He always thought he would be a rock n roll star but now he's a rock n roll daddy! This movie is definitely one that we will be seeing.

  8. ZOMG!! I am so excited you posted this. Newly pregnant and totally freaked …this being unplanned and all, I think this will be a great documentary to being me down to earth and remind me that I can do it.

    I have been partying in the scene for a long time and have already felt weird not being able to do as much as before (so tired/sick all day) …but yeah…thank you for sharing! I am planning on seeing it in Berkely on November 18th!

  9. Cant wait to see the movie but what about a documentory on punk rock moms?
    As a female musician in a punkband Im in a minority, the scene is a bit of a sausage fest and when you question why, look at gender stereotypes, look at the opportunites and attitudes towards women in music plus the logisitics of raising a child and being part of the music industy and see that there are women out there managing parenthood and music I cant help but think that it would make for pretty interesting viewing.

  10. As a punk rocker, massive fan of most of these bands AND first itme Dad in 3 month, this doco was made for me. It was so great to see some of my idols in a roll that's about to change my life. i just fell the subjet matter of the film out weighed the quality of this documentarty.

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