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Are there ways you can strengthen a relationship, pre-baby?

We've talked about ways you can get your body ready for pregnancy… And we've talked about ways you can get yourself ready for a baby… But we haven't yet talked about how you can get your relationship ready for a baby!

What are some of the ways you went about getting your relationship ready for a baby?

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Mothering without a mom: I worry that my mom abandoning me will negatively affect me as a mom

There seems to be a lack of discussion in the world around women who are disowned or cut off from their mothers. The only literature I can find is surrounding the death of a parent and, this is so so different…

I have a mom. She is alive and well. She doesn't live far from me. But she considers me to be "dead," and wishes I could just forget she ever existed.

Now I'm pregnant, and the "mom stuff," as I call it, comes up frequently…

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Balance for working parents in emotionally demanding jobs

After a particularly difficult day at work, I snapped at my 3-year-old over something minor that totally didn't warrant such an overreaction. As I registered the hurt in her eyes, I realized what had happened — I had given so much of my patience to my students that day, there was none left for my own child when she needed it. After a good long cry and some consolation ice cream (for both of us), I knew I needed to start being more intentional about my work/life balance if I didn't want my psyche to implode like a dying star of stress and guilt.

These are a few of the strategies I've put in place to preserve my sanity and ensure that everyone in my life—myself included—gets the care they deserve.

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Learning to cope with a parent in prison

My mom went to prison for drugs, the first time, when I was seven years old. When my mom was arrested again, five weeks before my wedding, everything came crashing down on me.

I feel like it's something that's so taboo to talk about, even though (according to the US Bureau of Justice) over 2.2 million people were incarcerated in 2013. That's a big, big number for something that isn't regularly being talked about…