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How can I have a great big long-distance holiday?

We're a young military family that anticipates a move soon, so we won't be going home to visit family this Christmas. This isn't the first time (nor will it be the last), but this year is different… It's going to be our daughter's first Christmas, and we very much want to include our parents. I need some advice about how to have a great big long-distance holiday! Any suggestions would be much appreciated, especially from anyone who's done this before.

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Are poly and sex-positive people really "obsessed with sex"?

Many (if not most of us) who are polyamorous, swinger, or in any kind of open relationships, have been told we are "obsessed with sex." But are we really? Okay, sure… there are absolutely people out there who would be obsessed with sex. They even have therapy sessions, which for anyone truly obsessed with sex — that is a wonderful thing. But many of us are not dictionary-definition obsessed with sexual pleasures. We're simply open — open-minded, open sexually, and sexually positive. Is that really a bad thing? Apparently to some people, yes, yes it is.

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Reflecting on becoming a mother when you've lost your own

While my husband and I discuss having a kid, I've heavily reflected on how my mother's life and death will translate into my own experience as a parent, and my relationship with my child. I've questioned how I can give my child what my mom gave me as hers. I've even feared the potential reality of me having the same fate as her at her age. But with this, I've realized two very important things within my concerns…

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Dear well-meaning people who see my ring and ask "when are you going to have kids?"

I understand that our society has instilled in you that when a couple gets married the next step in their life together is to try to procreate. I understand that my fiancé and I are in the minority when we declare, completely honestly and without any trace of shame, that we do not want children. But you need to understand that "first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in the baby carriage" is not a universal statement.

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How do deal with gift-giving as your families and finances change?

Now that our brothers are over 21, do we still get them presents? And how do we tell them we don't want them to use their limited funds to get us anything? And can we not get them presents while still buying my younger siblings presents? And what about when our siblings have kids too? We can't afford to buy 10 kids quality presents as well as all of our other people! Plus, I don't want our kid coming home with a truckload of gifts. How have other Homies dealt with family gift giving as their families and finances have changed?