Brooklyn photographer, and Offbeat Bride vendor Amber Marlow is an intimate wedding and elopement photographer. So why are we singing her praises on Offbeat Home? Because she can also help you with all your awesome non-wedding-related photo needs, including photo sessions you don't even know you need!
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"Homeowner", "renter" or "squatter" – whatever the label, these occupants take the Offbeat wherever they go.
Back in 2006 when I was working a full-time corporate job, while also trying to write what would become Offbeat Bride the book, I almost had a nervous breakdown. Desperate for some guidance and inspiration, I sent an email to my local hero, Dan Savage. His advice was basically that he owed it all to his partner. His then-partner? Terry Miller, who is now (thanks to Washington's marriage laws) Dan's husband. In the 10 years since I had this exchange, I've basically built my het marriage to emulate their gay marriage, and I'm convinced it's been the secret to everything being happy.
I look mostly like my father, but I got my mother's mouth.
The second oldest of four girls, my mother was always one of the loud ones. She talked loud. She sang loud. At her Catholic boarding school, she was always popular among her peers, known for being outgoing and gregarious. She became a hippy and strummed the loudest campfire guitar. She became a midwife and founded a national organization and spoke loudly at international women's health conferences. For her 50th birthday, she produced an entire CD of her songs, and threw a big party for herself. She started the night by announcing into the microphone, "Everyone, please be quiet and stop talking. It's time for me to sing."
The idea is simple: After a break-up of two (or more) persons living together, there's often this person left behind to live in the "old house," filled with memories of happier times or painful fights. A good decoration therapy session is about making significant changes to this environment and it usually involves friends, booze and lots of fun.
There's a word in Korean "삐딱이", or "bbiddaki." I've heard it translated as "rebel," but my mom says it is closer to "sarcastic." I think a very literal translation would be "one who stands crookedly." I've been chewing this over for a while, and I think my peeps are onto something…
Remember that post about how to maintaining a relationship with difficult family members? I'm about to drop some deep family secrets on this site today. My solution to maintaining relationships with difficult siblings is this: Fucking DON'T. I don't know if I can offer the definitive advice on the topic of ditching difficult family members, but I can offer up a few insights from my own 30+ years of experience…
Now that we've finally reached a level of experience and graduated from junior status, we are finding that our jobs require more of our effort and more of our time. So much so that by the end of the day we are both so zapped out that we can barely do the household things at home before collapsing in bed, which has totally killed our sex life! I'd love to hear how other Homies have managed to retain the energy and carve out the time for sex and intimacy when your jobs are demanding.