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The kind of questions my husband and I get are totally different. People ask him, "Are you ready to lose your freedom?" while people ask me, "Are you ready to be a mother?" Maybe it's just the way these jokes and comments and questions stacked up, but it doesn't feel like I can just "lighten up." Any confidence I had in myself to ignore what people were saying quickly dissipated, and one of my newest and biggest worries was born.

As I grow in my relationship with my husband and future family, what's going to happen to my identity?

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Death is a scary question. It is the scary question. It's your first real encounter of the inevitable as a child; the day you realise, because you live, you are going to have to die. Petrifying! I didn't want to dismiss it with the old Catholic one-liners that I was fed as a child, but I didn't want to traumatise my child any further with whatever half-baked, uncharted belly flop into the pool of hippy parenting my brain was feverishly trying to piece together.

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Do my interactions with strangers shape my toddler's view of gender?

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Why I send my kid outside to a kindergarten in the forest

It's winter in Georgia. The children waddle into the woods in layers of warm and waterproof clothes, awkward and round. The teachers' hats are pulled down over their ears and when they stomp their feet and clap their hands along with the songs and poems at morning circle time, they do so with extra motivation.

This is the hardest time of year to send our children outside to kindergarten for the day, and the most important…