How to find yourself when you're focused on raising someone else?

Younger mamas, I want you to know that us older mamas are just as befuddled at times as you are. I was in my mid-30s when I had my first child, and I don't feel as if you ever finish the finding-yourself journey — nor would I want to. It's part of the joy of being alive.

That said, here's what's helped for me to reconnect in areas of my life that need it…

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Infertility, and the 5 stages of grief

During the first six months of marriage, I wasn't too concerned about my fertility. After all, I was unaware of any fertility difficulties within my family. At the six month mark, I began feeling impatient. When there was still nothing after eight months. This is about when I started going through the stages of grief

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Raising children on the spectrum when you are also on the spectrum

My son is diagnosed with Asperger's and my daughter was diagnosed with moderate autism. Just recently my therapist told me that I fall on the spectrum too.

Being told that was like a door I had been pushing at finally opening and letting in the fresh air, I knew it I was different, I knew it in my bones since before I had my son, I just didn't know how to speak about these things.

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Creating a life vs. becoming a mom: thoughts on adoption and surrogacy

I have never thought of myself as motherly. Never wanted any part of it. I'm 26 now, and have always known that I didn't want children of my own. But when I was 19 I had a surprise pregnancy. I was careful, but life happens. Long story short, I chose adoption. I knew I couldn't do it and wanted the best for my little person…