How to balance feminism with pragmatism in household chores

Both my partner and I consider ourselves progressive, feminist individuals. In most things, we are great about ensuring the we are contributing equally. The problem arises when it comes to the domestic sphere…

I don't want to be responsible for the majority of the domestic chores. At the same time, I don't think it is very feminist to force someone to do something they hate. Is there some way you have found balance in your relationships?

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I'm losing my baby fever

My husband still wants kid, but I've found my baby fever has started to fade. I love kids, but I sometimes find myself thinking, "Maybe I don't want this for myself after all." After a lifetime of wanting kids, it's a super-weird feeling.

Has anyone else experienced this? If so, what advice do you have?

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What NOT to do when your friends have a newborn

In the first couple of weeks after giving birth, I found myself showered with food, presents, and presence. But it was really after the six weeks passed that I found myself quite alone — people weren't visiting anymore, but it was still hard for me to get out with a newborn. This is the best time to be there for your friend. But here are some of my major don'ts, that you could help manage if you're there!

Can't spell vasectomy without team: how to give the perfect "snip gift"

"Taking one for the team"… "Vasec-Tommy"… "Can't spell vasectomy without team" Yep, when there's no push present because you've chosen to be childfree, sometimes you make t-shirts with the slogans above as part of your "snip gift" extravaganza. Our sales manager chica, Tiff, did just this for her husband and we've got the deets on how to make vasectomy day a much better day than it could be otherwise.

How can I be the best friend to a new mom?

I'm looking for advice from moms, and those who love them, on how I can be a good friend to my BFF who is having a baby. I need a bit of a rundown on how I can expect our relationship to change. So how do I be the best pal to a new mom given our relative distance? And how do I make sure I don't accidentally make her life harder trying to keep our friendship going?