I'm a father and I want to talk about parenting with depression

I'm sure other parents have gone through this, and it's not a topic we talk about a lot. Postpartum depression has gotten a lot of press in recent years (as it should), but depression impacts dads as well. As men, we tend to avoid these kinds of topics by and large; which is foolish, but that doesn't make it any less the case.

So let's talk about parenting with depression…

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How do you handle money and debt in a relationship?

My partner and I are cool with a lot of things, but in certain arenas we just don't line up. How do you reconcile it when one person in a relationship feels that debt is a sad reality of this modern life, and accepts debt as "just something that happens," and the other person is more in line with the "DEBT IS AN EMERGENCY" kinda deal?

I'm just curious how people reconcile different attitudes toward saving money.

Hey "bad moms," let's give ourselves permission to feel competent

Since the birth of my daughter, I've found myself using the phrase "I'm a bad mom" a lot. It horrifies my husband, who associates bad moms with criminals, not ordinary women with ordinary flaws.

Think about your best girlfriend who is also a mom. Now imagine someone called her a bad parent. How would you feel?

Somebody said it to my face once. He didn't really know me, had never met my daughter, he was just a drunken dick in the bar where I work, but he said it, he looked me in the eye and said: "You're a bad mother." Let me tell you, it's one hell of a fucking insult, and we should never, never, say it to ourselves.