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I do hear warning voices, though, telling me that this isn't a "real" relationship. So I wonder… are there other people out there living in a similar weekend relationship pattern?

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How can our relationship survive if he doesn't want to be around me 90% of the time? Isn't him wanting to live separately just the first step in ending the relationship? Or is it already over, and I'm refusing to acknowledge it?

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I recently told all of this to my husband. He met me with open arms and respects my feelings. But I don't know how to sort through these feelings I'm having towards a new lifestyle…