On unexpectedly finding love after feeling like I don't deserve it

I gave bits and pieces of myself to people that never really earned it. I was hurt repeatedly, but was okay with that, because I thought "I deserved it." I had a resentment buried down inside of me so deep that it had tainted my being. I was told I wasn't good enough and I believed it — I let myself believe his words. I had never looked in someone's eyes and saw love. I just kept living with mediocrity.

And then I met her…

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Advice for being the polyamorous partner to a monogamous spouse

I'm monogamous to my soul. My husband of 21 years recently dropped the Poly bomb. And, I'm sorry poly people, no matter how gently you think you're approaching it, it still feels like a bomb. But he doesn't want to lose his family, and God help me, I still love him, so I'm staying. He'll have his happiness, the girls will have their family and home intact, and I'll learn to live with it.

That being said, there are some things you can do if your monogamous spouse agrees to open your marriage…

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How to have more sex when all you do is work

Couples vary wildly in the amount of sex they have. The American average for couples is somewhere around three to four times a month (last I heard). That sounds awfully low, doesn't it? But lots of people are happy with it. If you only have sex on the weekends, you're practically at, or exceeding, the American average.

But if you're not, and you want to have more sex, here's my advice…