How do you handle money and debt in a relationship?

My partner and I are cool with a lot of things, but in certain arenas we just don't line up. How do you reconcile it when one person in a relationship feels that debt is a sad reality of this modern life, and accepts debt as "just something that happens," and the other person is more in line with the "DEBT IS AN EMERGENCY" kinda deal?

I'm just curious how people reconcile different attitudes toward saving money.

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Screw the "romantic mystique" — let's think about love

We base some of the biggest decisions of our lives on romantic love, and yet we resist actually examining love… for fear of overthinking it and somehow erasing its magic. FUCK THAT. We should all be thinking about this shit, since we all base huge life decisions on it. So, here's some of my recent research…

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How I found personal freedom in a partnership

If you had described my current relationship to me before I was in it, I'd have walked — run! — away from the best thing I've ever known.

Turns out, I learned that I can be a more authentic me inside our relationship, because I'm loved and supported in a way that I often fail to love and support myself.

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I don't know what I did wrong: What should I do?

It's confusing and hurtful, to say the least. But we've all been left with self-esteem issues, too — worried that we're capable of causing incredible damage to our loved ones, without even knowing it.

I suppose there's not much to be done, other than to discuss it amongst ourselves and go to therapy. But if anybody has a great idea for helping us make peace when you don't know what you did wrong, I'd definitely appreciate it.

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5 tips for online dating on Craigslist

Yes, I used Craigslist for online dating, and YES you can find ANYTHING on there. Even a spouse.

I had no idea of the reputation of Craigslist before I got on it, maybe if I had I wouldn't have used it. But I did online dating via Craigslist for probably six years and went on maybe a couple hundred dates.

Here's my advice…