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Why I stopped giving a shit about my size

Just a little over a year ago something shifted in me, it was one of the first things I stopped giving a shit about whilst applying the philosophy of "fuck it". Health is important to me, don't get me wrong.  I just really don't care what size I am, I am SO over wishing I was smaller.

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Ch-ch-changes: It's okay to change your mind

There are certain times in your life when you think you have your shit all figured out. You make a decision and, not knowing how the future will mold and shape and affect you, you think that you’ll keep to that decision for the rest of your life. Newsflash: People and choices change. It happens.

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Wands optional: intentional thinking and magic

I've been interested in witchcraft for ten years, and practiced it to varying degrees over the past decade trying to find the methods that works best for me. For me, focus, intentional thinking, meditation, prayer, and mindfulness all translate to a clearer trajectory and more successful outcome for whatever task I'm grappling with. It's helped my mental health, my goal-setting, and focus.

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Finding the value in being a part-time creative person

I now hold a very normal job. I work in the finance industry in the city, and I love it, but there always has been (and I suspect always will be) part of me that wonders if I should have done something more creative… Am I wasting potential talent? What if I'm withholding some grand work of literature from the world because I didn't take that route?

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Overcoming Imposter Syndrome as a polyamorous mom

Once upon a time, there was a woman. She lived in a polyamorous, sex-positive family. She liked people… just people in general. She thought they were beautiful, and loved to learn (and learned to love) the intricacies of their personalities. Physically, intellectually, emotionally — she saw their strengths and enjoyed them for what they were. But she couldn't apply the same standards to herself.

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There is a certain joy in ritual

While at face value, following a specific set of actions may seem difficult or complicated, the reason it works is because, in actuality, the rituals make life more simple. Simplicity during the times I feel most sensitive to worry is like a little gift to myself, the gift of certainty. There are so many times in a day that I worry about what's next. When I know exactly what is going to happen next, I don't worry about it. Reducing worry in my life is one of my major goals in my search for personal serenity.

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FU A/S/L: I'm starting to care a little bit less about labels

It's something unique to computer-goers of the Internet era: It's important, we reasoned, when you're taking to a stranger on the Internet that they know some important things about you in a succinct manner. A/S/L — age, sex, location. What religion we are. What our political leanings are. Our sexual orientation or gender presentation. Our favorite quotations or song lyrics. Things about us that are symbolic of our personalities, our likes and dislikes; our whole self. It's a form of branding, and for years we were proud of it. It happened while I was on Facebook: I noticed that I was the only one going through a labeling crisis.