How to find yourself when you're focused on raising someone else?

Younger mamas, I want you to know that us older mamas are just as befuddled at times as you are. I was in my mid-30s when I had my first child, and I don't feel as if you ever finish the finding-yourself journey — nor would I want to. It's part of the joy of being alive.

That said, here's what's helped for me to reconnect in areas of my life that need it…

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I feel out place in modern society: Coping strategies for living in Muggleworld

You wouldn't know from looking at me across the street, but I feel ill at ease in the world I inhabit.

I do my utmost to escape to other worlds, where no one has EVER ever ever heard of networking, diets, and smartphones… I lose myself to the straightforward and magical life of books, art, and food.

My problem is this: as I grow older, it is quite often not enough. I simply feel outpaced by modern society as a whole. How do you find inner peace in large quantities when muggle life keeps knocking on your front door, and moving to the wilderness is just not a option?

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This little girl recreated photos of indomitable black women for Black History Month

My five year old daughter, Lola, is in Kindergarten. Understanding that Black History is not something that would necessarily be given much priority at that age, and knowing my daughter's love of playing dress up, I set out to make learning black history fun for her…

Starting February 1, we recreated a photo of an inspiring, indomitable black woman, and talk about her legacy!

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My gender identity is confused and I'm okay with it

I should probably start by identifying my gender, but that is… complicated. I am a female, physically. What I identify as is where it gets blurry.

As a teenager, in the early nineties, I had no internet to help me figure it out. And, as a broke young adult in the new millenia, I still didn't have the amazing resources and web connection of, "Hey, my specific gender identity has a name and I'm not alone!"