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How can I get people to stop complimenting my weight loss?

I get tired of people commenting on how great I look when I lose or telling me I look great because I've lost weight. Beside saying, "Please don't comment about my weight" — which can come across brisk — are there any suggestions on more succinctly letting people know their "compliments" are triggering and annoying?

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Like many other people who are fat children who become fat teenagers before being fat adults, I learned from a young age that my body was "never meant to be desirable or sexy." Fat bodies are never portrayed in the media as being sexy in a way which is positive or empowering, so there is simply very little representation for fat people as sexual beings. So, I became a sex worker, making indie amateur pornography.

I took a deep breath, hit record, and filmed some videos of myself. It was difficult and confronting. I felt bad about how I looked. Yet, with each video it got easier…

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Why my feminism includes traditional gender roles

When you hear the word "feminist," you likely don't picture is me: a housewife who does all the cooking and housekeeping, who makes dinner from scratch, and a solid effort to look pretty for her husband everyday when he comes home from work. I'm "mom" to my two rescued mutts. I'm a published writer. I'm a wife. And my feminism includes my right to want to be the best wife and partner that I can possibly be to my husband. The keyword there being "partner."

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Fuck yeah, I'm getting older! My alternative anti-aging manifesto

The daily realities of aging have also terrified me — losing my physical strength and vitality, and also the effect the years will have on my appearance. As a woman in a society obsessed with youth and beauty it is hard to shake off the stigma of aging. As I approach my 33rd birthday I set about devising my own, alternative "anti-aging manifesto." I began to write it down, and found myself smiling, as my words were light hearted and empowering. I was focusing on all the things I want to embrace.