The 3 tricks to staying positive in a negative world

It's so easy to be discontent with our bodies, our possessions, our lives; stepping back and realizing exactly how many amazing positives there are in each and every one of our lives is a huge step toward having a healthy mind and a happy life.

Here's how I do it…


How can I get people to stop complimenting my weight loss?

I get tired of people commenting on how great I look when I lose or telling me I look great because I've lost weight. Beside saying, "Please don't comment about my weight" — which can come across brisk — are there any suggestions on more succinctly letting people know their "compliments" are triggering and annoying?


Doing porn helped me love and respect my fat body

Like many other people who are fat children who become fat teenagers before being fat adults, I learned from a young age that my body was "never meant to be desirable or sexy." Fat bodies are never portrayed in the media as being sexy in a way which is positive or empowering, so there is simply very little representation for fat people as sexual beings. So, I became a sex worker, making indie amateur pornography.

I took a deep breath, hit record, and filmed some videos of myself. It was difficult and confronting. I felt bad about how I looked. Yet, with each video it got easier…