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Why we've never waited twelve weeks to tell people we're pregnant

My partner and I just can not keep a secret. The excitement for new things is just too much to hold in and inevitably leads to early Christmas gifts and disclosing information possibly too prematurely. We have never waited to tell our friends and family we are expecting. Our children know within days of a positive pregnancy test and share in our excitement and wonderment the entire pregnancy. It was no different when we found out that we were expecting our fifth child on my birthday in 2011. Our family celebrated welcoming a brother or sister while I blew out my candles.

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8 ways to help you deal when the time isn't right to have a baby

It was never going to happen to me like it did with those parents who hit the one-year mark, watch their little baby toddle around and say, "Oh… I want another one!" After a terrible pregnancy that ended in an emergency C-section, I decided I was done for good. Or at the very least a good looooong time. I wrote myself letters throughout the pregnancy to remind myself that YES it was that bad, the same way I kept track of the (still ongoing) night wakings, issues with breastfeeding. Finances have been kept under strict supervision, and baby expenditures can be easily totalled.

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Building a nursery is how I maintain my sanity while trying to conceive

I was tired of feeling like I was letting my partner down. It didn’t matter that I knew he was disappointed in the situation and not with me. I still felt responsible. I didn’t need him to say anything, I needed him to act. So I gave him a responsibility: I asked him to do something for the nursery-to-be. Whatever he wanted. What I was really looking for was reassurance that he thought we’d get there eventually.

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My unplanned emergency C-section renegotiated my parenting ideals

Before I had my baby, I had a lot of plans and expectations based around an unmedicated birth and high hopes for a water birth. This didn't seem unfeasible as the pregnancy had been entirely uncomplicated. I hadn't bought a pram, preferring a Kari Me sling. I was planning to wear the baby all the time, breastfeed all the time (after all it's free and if you're on limited finances that's pretty important) and was overall looking forward to it.

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I'm pregnant again after the death of my first baby

Even before trying to conceive my husband and I had discussions about how we might handle another pregnancy emotionally. We expected to be ravaged with anxiety and dread most days. We expected to live in anguish for nine months, fearing the worst. I'm happy to report that isn't the case, for either of us.