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I don't want to say #metoo, but here's why I will

"I wish we didn't have to rip our pasts open & show you everything & let you ogle our pain for you to believe us about predation and trauma." – Lindy West. The sad fact is, though, that the #metoo phenomenon of sharing seems to be the only way to make any headway in chipping away at the bedrock that allows people with any modicum of power to exploit the vulnerabilities of those who have been raised to be silent and self-blaming. Victims are forced to either take on the system themselves or join together to raise a tiny flag to create larger flag aiming for change.

Consensual robo sex? The evolution of sex scenes in Blade Runner

In Blade Runner 2049, there's a spacey three-way between humans and replicants that was fascinating and compelling. We could debate the finer points of whether or not replicants can actually consent, but I'm going to instead compare it to its predecessor, the original Blade Runner from 1982. There was one particular scene that still sticks with me as highly controversial…

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7 tools & apps that make life way more organized and chill

My cat never does seem to start acting as my personal assistant, despite my pleas. Even with all my emails, projects, and stress piling up around me. Rude. I guess we're stuck having to keep ourselves organized, Bear, jeez. If you're in this pickle, know you're not alone. But here's where technology can actually help instead of hinder: seven life organization apps that we use to keep shit organized.

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How to host a classy AF Halloween party for grown-ups

I'm a big fan of Halloween parties for kids (candy! apples! games!), but if you're planning a more sophisticated Halloween party for grown-ups, you'll want to up your game. Here are a few of my favorite chic Halloween decor ideas, shmancy Halloween cocktails, and killer ways to keep things spooky at your adult Halloween shindig.

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What's the protocol for family photos with future in-laws?

I've been dating my partner for about two and a half years and we're definitely on the road to marriage. He's very close with his family and they are currently planning some family photos with my partner's immediate family and his brother's family (wife and kids). Since we're not married, it feels weird to be part of their family's photos, especially when I haven't met them that many times (they live in another state).

Is it cool to have them take the photos without me? Is that even something you could safely suggest or should I just shut up and get in the picture?