Being The Backup: The one who gets the text when no one else is available

If someone is constantly telling you how much they miss you, but finds time weekly to spend with other people they just met, can't find time for coffee, lunch, a quickie — ANYTHING with you — then it's clear how much you and your time actually means to them. You aren't even really a friend to them let alone a lover. Finally, it becomes clear: You are The Backup. You are who they go to when nobody else is available. So, fellow Backups, what are we supposed to do? Should we just smile and be happy that someone wants us, even if we are their last possible choice?

3 reasons guinea pigs are the perfect offbeat apartment pets

I've had all kinds of pets over the years — from cats, to goldfish, and everything in between. No matter how many other animals I've loved since then, I've always come back to guinea pigs. They're a little more interesting than your run-of-the-mill hamster (in my humble opinion), and have a hell of a lot of personality. Best of all, they make a great addition to apartments or rental homes where it might not be feasible to adopt non-caged pets like dogs or cats.

Here's why…


How do you have adult time when living in a small space with a kid?

My partner and I just moved into a 600-square-foot cottage with our one-year-old. Although there's technically a separate bedroom, the wall doesn't go all the way to the ceiling. So it may as we'll be a studio for sound purposes. Is there a magic equation for living in a small space with a kid? Will we ever have sex again? And what can I do when I just really, really need some personal space?