Why I'm ripping the minus sign off my calculator: the mathematics of women and body image issues

My whole life has been about taking things out of my life in order to make it better. Subtracting weight. Removing blemishes. Getting rid of the appearance of cellulite and stretch marks. Reducing belly fat. Banishing negative thoughts. Taking this or that out of my diet. Ignoring my needs, lessening them for the convenience of others. Literally lowering the volume of my voice because too many people have scolded me for being too loud. To say I'm fed up with it is a gross understatement.


The Holidays are coming: We dare you to send this hilarious "holiday application form" to your family this year!

Each year, The Holiday Conversations in our extended family starts in mid-July, when our little unit begins strategizing with our in-laws, to get out ahead of the game. It's preemptive damage control. Much like leaving a play-date en-masse, we like to present a united front when the parents-in-law begin sniffing around our holiday plans. Our plans for this year's Thanksgiving were already solidified weeks ago, but I'd like to share it here in case anyone finds it useful. I've updated it for the 2015 calendar year…


3 secrets for learning the language of money in relationships

It's no secret that one the most contentious issues in many relationships is money. It truly does make the world — and our lives — go 'round. Money also doesn't discriminate as to who its issues affect; it influences partnerships between people of any age, race, gender, background, or income level. I'm by no means an expert on relationships or money, as I'm sure Dr. Phil and Suze Orman could tell quickly given the chance. But I am someone who's had to examine her own financial values in the context of her relationship. I've had to work with my husband to cultivate shared ideas and practices for our life together. The following tenets are a product of my six years of learning, compromise, and growth…


What happens when your parent dies early

Understandably, in the weeks following Dad's death, I turned to the internet for ideas and help to process what I was going through when your parent dies early, and, to be honest, I drew a bit of a blank. So, these are a few thoughts on my experience, in the hope that someone else going through a similar slightly "early" loss finds them useful…