How can I start talking to my partner about opening our relationship?

I've been dating my wonderful boyfriend for six years and I love him very much. Over the last year though, I've started to change my beliefs on monogamy and have read quite a few books on polyamory (Including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships). I really feel like it's a lifestyle I would like to pursue in some form, but including my current boyfriend. I've tried to ease into the subject with my boyfriend in the least threatening way I can think of (only relationships with other women, I've never mentioned other men), but he gets defensive and shuts the conversation down. How can we talk about this?


Offbeat Home is now Offbeat Home & LIFE!

We got this same feedback again and again: "I'm not a bride, not a mom, not a homeowner, so where's my site?" And it exactly describes Offbeat Home's editor, Megan. She edits Offbeat Home from the exact perspective. Clearly we have a disconnect between who we think Offbeat Home is targeted to, and who feels welcomed here. Here's how we plan to change that…


Help us make our bed nook look less "Old European shack"

y manfriend and I recently downsized our bedroom. We moved our office area into our bedroom and moved our bed ( nothing else) into where the office used to be. The Bed takes up most of the room (we can't fit anything else in it)… it's more like a bednook really.

Now I need ways to make the room look more like a cozy sleeping space and less of a solitary confinement room. I've draped a scarf on the wall to make a "headboard" (it's just a mattress on the floor) but now it's got this "Old European shack in the middle of winter feel" to it.

Collectively grieving Newtown, CT

Stephanie and I are both completely devastated by the situation in Newtown, with Stephanie being especially freaked out since she already survived one shooting last week (she and her son were at the mall in Oregon last Tuesday when three people were shot and killed). The two of us have been talking all weekend, and we just don't have much to contribute to the discussions about Newtown. That said, I do want to provide a place for Offbeat Families to support each other through the grief we're all experiencing as we emerge from the terrible events of last week…

Flower Muse has gifts for the hard-to-shop-for totally covered

All last week we brought you gift guides for the people on your holiday gift-buying lists. If you STILL haven't found that perfect thing for those special someones, our sponsor Flower Muse has the ULTIMATE holiday gift solution: FLOWERS! We're not talking the traditional poinsettia plants and evergreen wreaths that are everywhere. Flower Muse has some truly unique flower offerings for those hard-to-shop for folks on your list. AND they're offering them at a special discount for the Homies…