Fancy-ass cute shower caps are kind of awesome (especially if you're doing "no 'poo")

The whole "no 'poo" form haircare is growing in popularity, but for those of us who A) used to have dreads or hair extensions or B) are lazy slobs, it's just the way things go. I spent 1999-2001 with a crazy assemblage of dreads and extensions, and only washing my hair once a month. Then I spent 2006-2011 wearing my hair in two pink-tipped braids all day, every day, and only washed my hair twice a month. It was awesome and it worked great.

It did mean, however, that I needed to use a shower cap to keep my hair dry when I wasn't washing it in the shower. And lemme tell you, there are some CUTE options…


How can I start talking to my partner about opening our relationship?

I've been dating my wonderful boyfriend for six years and I love him very much. Over the last year though, I've started to change my beliefs on monogamy and have read quite a few books on polyamory (Including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships). I really feel like it's a lifestyle I would like to pursue in some form, but including my current boyfriend. I've tried to ease into the subject with my boyfriend in the least threatening way I can think of (only relationships with other women, I've never mentioned other men), but he gets defensive and shuts the conversation down. How can we talk about this?


Offbeat Home is now Offbeat Home & LIFE!

We got this same feedback again and again: "I'm not a bride, not a mom, not a homeowner, so where's my site?" And it exactly describes Offbeat Home's editor, Megan. She edits Offbeat Home from the exact perspective. Clearly we have a disconnect between who we think Offbeat Home is targeted to, and who feels welcomed here. Here's how we plan to change that…


Help us make our bed nook look less "Old European shack"

y manfriend and I recently downsized our bedroom. We moved our office area into our bedroom and moved our bed ( nothing else) into where the office used to be. The Bed takes up most of the room (we can't fit anything else in it)… it's more like a bednook really.

Now I need ways to make the room look more like a cozy sleeping space and less of a solitary confinement room. I've draped a scarf on the wall to make a "headboard" (it's just a mattress on the floor) but now it's got this "Old European shack in the middle of winter feel" to it.

Collectively grieving Newtown, CT

Stephanie and I are both completely devastated by the situation in Newtown, with Stephanie being especially freaked out since she already survived one shooting last week (she and her son were at the mall in Oregon last Tuesday when three people were shot and killed). The two of us have been talking all weekend, and we just don't have much to contribute to the discussions about Newtown. That said, I do want to provide a place for Offbeat Families to support each other through the grief we're all experiencing as we emerge from the terrible events of last week…