How on earth do you move with an outdoor cat? #Moving#Pets#advice#cats March 8 | Offbeat Editors By: Tomi Tapio K – CC BY 2.0 I was wondering, how on earth you move with an outdoor cat? In our current home, we leave the window open and she comes and goes as she pleases. However, we're looking to move to an apartment about four hours away. She doesn't adapt to change well (was hoping to somehow have her asleep during the drive), but I know that a lot of outdoor cats try and find their way back to their old home. We were thinking of transitioning her to an indoor cat, at least for a while, but she's never even used a litter box before. When, if ever, will it be okay to let her out again? -Kirstin Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS Make an emergency candle out of toilet paper and butter NEXT Bears, bombs, and gargoyles: wall-mounted bottle openers bite back Toggle comments [ 105 ] I moved three times with an outdoor cat, though always within 20miles of the old house, and all we did was as soon as we arrived at the new house we took him inside and fed him. The first time we read we should also try to keep him inside or closeby the new house for 24 hours, but he wasn't having that, he loves to explore too much! So we gave up on that part, the feeding did the trick anyway. I don't know if it's true of all cats, but for Charlie, once he ate somewhere, he knew that is where he had to return to for more food, and to be with us. He's moved a fourth time since his cat-daddy and I broke up, and now lives on a boat! 8 agree Reply i have tried to catch him from our old address but as soon as my daughter opens the door for him he runs away he is being fed but now getting cold how can i get him and bring him to our new home to join his brother 3 agree Reply We moved a couple times when I was a kid, and we only had one cat who tried to make her way back home. I think what we figured out worked best was: 1. Make sure kitty is hungry when she arrives at the new house, and feed her from her own dishes when she gets to the new place. 2. When transitioning to a litterbox, there may be accidents. Soak up/pick up the mess with a paper towel and put it INTO the litterbox. The smell will help the cat learn where to go, in addition to its natural instinct to find a quiet and absorbent place to go. Start practicing now. 3. Once kitty has "settled in" to the new place you can probably let her outside again if it's a safe place, but make sure it's awhile after the house is unpacked and settled, and a place where she feels secure. 10 agree Reply I've never thought of putting the accidents into the box. That might work, thanks! 6 agree Reply Maybe rethink having an outdoor cat? An indoor cat has a much, much longer life expectancy. http://www.americanhumane.org/animals/adoption-pet-care/caring-for-your-pet/indoor-cats-vs-outdoor-cats.html 29 agree Reply While I agree that indoor cats live much longer lives some times that just isn't feasible. I adopted an adult cat from a shelter a few years back. I live on a busy road in a city so even though I have a nice fenced in yard I decided she needed to be a 100% indoor cat. ( I didn't want to come home to a squished kitty on the road!) However, she was used to being outside. She was happy coming in but when she realized that any attempts at escaping were thwarted she became very aggressive scratching and biting anyone who came near. In the summer months she figured out how to kick the screens out of the windows. She darted out of any open door. I ended up giving her to my aunt who lives in the country. She is now a very happy cat who comes in at night and cuddles on my little cousins bed. Some cats just need to be outside. 59 agree Reply I agree with this. We have a cat we tried to keep inside and she became an escape artist and wouldn't come inside for months. If we'd try to bring her inside she'd have a panic attack. When it started getting cold and raining – her mood changed and she started coming in again. Now we let her come and go as she pleases, and she's much happier. I worry about cars, but I've watched her look both ways before crossing the street many times. We have a smart cat. 18 agree Reply Quality of life vs quantity of life. Some cats are just not happy living indoors. I know that if I were given the option of living until 80, but never going outside, or dying at 40 I personally would pick 40 with out any hesitation. You have to do what is best for you and your cat. If they CAN transition to being an indoor cat, go for it, but accept that some cats just can't. 58 agree Reply Yeah unfortunately I think "indoor-cat-ism" is something you probably have to start at kittenhood, for a lot of cats. They are much safer and it makes me sad to see cats running around in relatively traffic-heavy areas, but sometimes they get that taste of freedom and you're screwed ;-P (Nevermind the havoc they wreak on wildlife… apparently they've hunted several species into extinction.) 13 agree Reply Yup kittenhood is the place to do it! My new cat has ZERO interest in being outside, its scary and terrifying and often wet. But he's been inside since day 1 (Momma was pregnant when she came into the shelter). 4 agree Reply My cat as well. I got him as a kitten and have kept him indoors ever since. However, he does try to slip outside once in a while, because he is very keen to explore. My husband and I lived in a camper last summer, and I recognized that the space was very confining for my Ollie…..so I leash walked him. As silly as it felt to be that person who walked their cat, Ollie loved it and would meow excitedly anytime I took out his harness. We're in a bigger apartment now that adjoins an enclosed barn where Ollie can roam at night when the doors are all closed up. 2 agree Yeah, she's been an outdoor cat since before we got her. She found us and decided we were her new family. She's been an outdoor kitty for at least 9 years (and surprisingly I don't think she does much hunting – all our "gifts" have been from the other cat) 3 agree Reply Outdoor cats are happier 9 agree Reply I've struggled with this (outdoor vs indoor) and please tell me what you think, but it's quality of life in my eyes. I live in a fairly quiet area and found my cat outside when he was about two. He loves it out there. He runs a million miles an hour, up and and down trees, kills little birds, runs along fence tops and chases pigeons away. If I kept him in the apartment, he'd be chasing a duck on a string when I had the time to do it or bringing water bottle caps to the bathtub. Could he be hit by a car, sure…could he be killed by racoons, dogs, cats or other animals, sure. I follow a few rules that I do to "raise the odds" of survival. I do not let him out at night…ever. This was a tough one for him as he did have a few buddies/enemies that he wanted to deal with, but after a couple months he was fine. At least in the daylight cars can see him and people seem to be of the friendly sort. If he's not in by 6pm I go get him. He knows what's coming and tries to run on occasion, but your resolve has to outweigh his Every time he walks in the door for the night he gets some sort of treat. I really don't know if cats experience emotion or to what degree, but if my guy is out for the day running around he seems to be in a much better mood. Now by "mood" I mean relaxed, affectionate, curious…all healthy cat behaviours. He's never hissed or swatted at anyone in his life minus the growls at thunder. You see so many cats that are overweight. I think that is a terrible thing to do to an animal. Yes, it may be alive and studies show that after a short period of time indoors, cats are not stressed by thins new environment in the least, but the snow is nearly gone here and I'm watching my cat explore all the new found surfaces that have revealed themselves after a long winter. I am a firm believer in cats and dogs needing to run to be happy. I have never seen at cat or dog at full speed that didn't look like they were having a blast. Am I projecting a human spin to a pet? I suppose, but my brain and not my heart tells me that freedom with boundaries is best. If he is hit by a car my heart will break but so be it. Do I take this animal that sprints full speed at trees leaps 10 feet in the air and sticks to the side like Spiderman and put him inside so he can live longer? Not a chance. 29 agree Reply Hi, I, too, agree with your policies on outdoor cats vs. indoor. I just have one question that I hope you can answer. My cats (2 rescues) have always been indoor/outdoor cats. I will need to move soon and I am soooo stressed over getting a landlord to allow my cats access to the outdoors. I do have a fenced in yard; however, both cats do roam the neighborhood In fact, I have walked my cat, around the neighborhood, unleashed, for 8 years. They love their walks and will stay by my side — mostly my Tiger cat as opposed to the black one for will dash underneath a bush when a car goes by ( which is good, right??) Simba, the Tiger. is like a dog and will just stop by my feet and wait. You say your cats have been outdoors all day running and having fun so there is no issue or problems with bringing them inside for the night. How does this work?? I mean, cats sleep during the day and are noctural. I cannot stand the thought, either, of keeping them locked indoors; however, both cats will need to be contained for possibly 2 weeks after our move. I will not, if I can help it, consider a condo or an apt. These cats have tasted freedom for years and I have had no issues with the neighbors. So how am I ever going to tell a Landlord: "Well, yes, I have 2 cats but they also have been allowed outdoors for their entire lives. I would truly appreciate your advice and/or comments. Thanks so much! 0 agree Reply It's funny it took about two weeks and my cat adjusted to going out during the day VERY quickly. He sleeps right through the night in a couple of different spots and he wanders beside me in the early morning so he knows the second I get up. It's not perfect. During the summer he knows that around dusk it could be his last time so he'll stretch it as much as possible. I'm pretty diligent about finding him but you really can't make a big deal of it. I'd say 9/10 days it works just fine. There are many studies on other animals that show they are pretty stressed for a short period of time. I think this is why zoos haven't been outlawed yet. I believe firmly that the animals are not as happy, but I also believe they adjust and adapt to their surroundings much easier than humans. They just figure, "okay, this is the way it is" and continue. We found some things to do inside. I live in a large apartment complex so on the weekends at night I'll take him on tours through the hallways of different floors @ 3am. He just loves it. You may have to carry them back down the stairs…there's a trick for that too…you can't carry them like a baby they have to be faced the same way when going down stairs. Anyway, the short answer is if it gets dark at 6pm then whenever they roam by the house after 5pm they are done. 0 agree Reply My cat is the same way. At 5am he is swatting me in the face to get up and let him out. He plays all day and is in and out through out the day. He stays out until about 8pm and then I let him in for the night. He really has no issues with it at all. He curls up in my bed and sleeps (as far as I know) all night long with me. He is a very happy cat. He loves our "cuddle" time during the day while the kids are at school and in bed at night. He does bring me home "presents" every now and then and he has only come home 1 time with a wound on his head which was from the neighbors mean cat. When he is outside its as simple as saying "ziggy" in a normal voice and he comes running. He is never far from the house at all. When he goes to the neighbors across the street to play with their kids he literally sits and waits before crossing to make sure there are no cars coming. He does not own a litter box. He meows at the door when he is ready to go out to potty and is back in a minute later if its raining or cold. He knows his limits. I would never housebound him. It would probably kill him if I did. 0 agree We moved from a couple of acres out in the country to the smallest yard ever. We tried keeping our cats in but they were so used to a cat door that they drove us crazy, especially at night, one of them paced the house and yowled at night. So we gave them access to the back yard, it has a privacy fence all the way around it and we had to just cross our fingers. Well, one of them did go missing for 12 days shortly after we moved but he found his way home (to the new house) and has been here with us ever since. They both settled in after a while. I could tell they missed their big yard but that fades over time. As for the litter box, one cat refused to use it for the first day, and the other one was ok with it. We only lasted for about a week trying to keep them inside so they both went back to going to the bathroom outside once we started letting them out again. Be patient. Spend time playing with your cat and feeding him special treats. If he does have an accident in the house use a mix of baking soda, peroxide, water and dish soap to clean it up. (be careful if it is carpet or fabric though, it may not be colour fast) You can find the amounts to mix up on line, it gets rid of any smell and doesn't cost the earth like some of the specialty products that are sold to get rid of the smell of cat urine. Good luck, moving our cats was one of the most stressful parts of our move and we made it, with two country cats that are now city cats. 3 agree Reply I've heard that most cats figure out the litterbox thing pretty quickly, because it's ingrained in their heads to hide the signs that they have been at a place in the wild. So the whole burying of poop is instinctive. I do know that when we adopted two cats who had been outside/feral cats, they took to the litterbox immediately. They were both under a year old at the time, but I think that older cats would likely adapt as well. 3 agree Reply while I've never moved an outdoor cat, I have transitioned one to using a litter box on occasion. We would get a box and fill it with dirt and leaves for the cat – it was always just a temporary arrangement due to things like post medical procedure or a blizzard. He didn't know what to do with cat litter, but he recognized the leaves as being his spot as it were. 1 agrees Reply its good to know they can transition fairly easily. I'll try the dirt and see if that helps 0 agree Reply My last cat was adopted from a shelter by my family, and was an indoor outdoor cat during that time. We moved once with her about an hour and a half away… I believe our original plan was to keep her indoors for one or two weeks while her 'homing' sense to our new home. I think the reality of what happened was that she spent a day hiding under the bed and being very angry with us, and then coming out and deciding on her own when she was ready to go back outside. When my husband and I moved into our own apartment, we took her with us then, too. She had to transition to being an entirely indoor cat, since we lived on the second floor with no easy cat access to the ground. She took to that move very well, and became more playful and active for it (part of that might have been moving from a three cat home to a one cat home, too). Unfortunately my dad was diagnosed with a terminal disease, and so my husband and I had to make the difficult decision to leave her with a family member while we went across country to be with my dad. She was turned from a spoiled housecat into an outdoor cat with minimal attention, and I'm afraid that when winter came, she passed away. I still feel guilty. All I can say is it probably depends a lot on the temperment of your cat, how well they'll take to a move and changing from outdoor to indoor. My cat was calm and peaceful and getting older, so for her, indoor-only worked. But I know cats who just have to explore and don't like to be stuck in a small area. Just pay attention to your cat, make sure that they know that their new home is where their food, toys, and any special places (a cat bed, a pillow they liked, your lap…) are, and then just try to keep an eye on them. As for litter training, it shouldn't be too difficult if you're patient enough to deal with a few messes in the training process. 3 agree Reply I feel like she'll be happier in an only-pet house (she's learned to tolerate the other cat, but won't leave my room during the day when the dogs are up) but she doesn't adjust to change well at all (when we got a new dog she refused to come inside at all, and I had to feed her outside for quite a while.) 3 agree Reply As for the travel, no matter how much they yowl, keep them in their carrier, its actually less freaky for them that way. Try rescue remedy on the nose before the trip to calm kitty. Keep kitty inside for 24hrs if possible and feed them before letting him/her outside again. They figure it out pretty quickly. Also- I have a kitty that ended up needing to be outside one summer.I got pregnant and she starting pissing EVERYWHERE like, no matter what we did. We let her outside finally after 5 years of being an indoor cat and she didn't pee inside again until winter (as in, in her litter box). She did all her rage peeing outside. Sometimes I guess there are just things a cats gotta do. Then we moved her to a new apartment that didn't have access to the outside, third floor, lots of stairs- and she isn't interested in being outside at all. Enjoys her window time. Hope that helps! Our kitty hates moving too. Be kind and pray they will adapt? 3 agree Reply the drive is mostly what im worried about. What is rescue remedy? 0 agree Reply Regarding the car trip, it may or may not be helpful to put the cat in a carrier in the car but with the door open (ideally in a less than super accessible way). I drive half way across the country with my two cats at least twice a year and if the doors to their carriers aren't open, they would howl for the entire 18 hours. If the doors are open, they don't feel trapped but stay in the carriers the entire trip just because it's a comfortable, safe space (I also throw their favorite blankets that smell like home on the bottom of the carriers). All in all, do what works best for your kitty, you know them best! 1 agrees Reply Rescue Remedy is an herbal treatment that comes in dropper form that you can add to their food or treats prior to stressful events. You can buy it on Amazon o just about anywhere. I've used it with my cat and dog, but I'm not sure how much it made a difference. 0 agree Reply I'll have to look into that, thanks! 1 agrees Reply Kirstin, I moved across country with my kitty (3.5 days of non-stop driving!) and she did remarkably well. I bought a big wire cage/carrier (so she could see out and see me better, plus room to get up and stretch her legs) and lined it with absorbent puppy pads in case she had an accident between litter box stops. I had originally planned on putting her litter box in the cage with her, but there wasn't enough room — she was fine holding it until we got to our nightly motel stop. She cried for the first hour or two on the first day, and then basically slept the rest of the way. Good luck with your drive — 4 hours will go by fast! 1 agrees Reply We always kept them inside for the first week (the goal was two, but when there was three of them we didn't always make it that long as they would start fighting amongst themselves when cooped up). That always seemed to do the trick. As for a litter box, as long as you show him where it is, its easily accessible and the most inviting place to pee (DON"T leave piles of laundry on the floor for instance) he should be fine. 2 agree Reply My cat was an indoor-outdoor cat, she would come and go as she pleased and we moved not only houses but countries. We microchipped her and put on her collar in the mornings, then open a window so she can go outside and explore, she returns quickly: it seems she doesn't like this colder northern climate that much! She adapted quite well and is almost all indoor now. Also, I can't say enough good things about Feliway (a plug in pheromone diffuser) It made her accept the new home as a nice safe place, since she was coming from an interim housing arrangement where we had to stay with my inlaws and their two cats, so she was already quite stressed (and from air travel as well) but with that feliway, I swear I could see the stress just leaving her. We no longer use it, and she's settled in nicely! 1 agrees Reply I'll look into feliway, thanks 1 agrees Reply We moved when I was young with an outdoor pseudo-feral cat. She would have gone insane if she was kept inside, so I remember my parents kept her trapped in the garage for a few days to get used to the new sounds and smells. 1 agrees Reply I adopted a stray tomcat, and he'd never been in a litterbox. My stepmom reminded me of how my times my visits to sandboxes as a kid were interrupted with little surprises in the sand. They just know what to do. After setup, I placed Pete in the litterbox, and the rest was history! 1 agrees Reply A move is a good opportunity to transition an outdoor cat to being indoor full time. If you will have a balcony at the new place that the cat can't escape from or a screened in porch, that could help with the transition. There are also enclosures available to let cats outside without letting them roam free. I agree with the earlier commenter who noted that indoor cats have longer average life expectancies than outdoor ones. 1 agrees Reply I'm interested in this and other comments about keeping cats indoors. Is this the norm in the US? I have never heard of anyone doing this in the UK, and nor have I heard that there would be health benefits (in fact, the RSPCA says here that it may even be bad for the cat, causing problems like obesity, particularly if it's used to being outside: http://www.rspca.org.uk/allaboutanimals/pets/cats/environment/indoors). I've never moved with a cat, but we did once adopt a cat from a nearby animal shelter. To prevent the cat trying to return to its old home, we were advised to keep him inside for a week or so, slowly transitioning to more time outside. (Though he could use the litter tray, so that doesn't solve your problem there.) Also giving the cat his own corner within the house where he could go if he was stressed out by the new environment was important. 3 agree Reply It's encouraged in Australia as well. It's no so much "health benefits" as a decreased chance of being run over or hit by a car, getting into fights with other cats or dogs, or picking up diseases from other animals. Also in Australia we have a lot of small native animals, many of which are already endangered, that cats like to hunt, so there's an environmental aspect to keeping cats indoors. There's also a courtesy aspect I suppose, in that an indoor cat is one less cat wandering around and potentially spreading diseases and fleas, and pooping in other people's yards. De-sexing of all pets is also strongly encouraged here, as we have a massive problem with ferals, strays, and full shelters. That does come with actual heath benefits though, such as decreased risk of cancers and various skin condtions, and lower levels of stress and aggression. 4 agree Reply Yes, neutering and preventing fleas/diseases of course always make sense! I hadn't even thought about cats killing endangered animals though, that's so interesting. Our wildlife is just kind of boring. 0 agree Reply It's not just about endangered animals: Americans keep an estimated 60 million cats as pets. Let's say each cat kills only one bird a year. That would mean that cats kill over 60 million birds (minimum) each year – more wildlife than any oil spill. Scientific studies actually show that each year, cats kill hundreds of millions of migratory songbirds. In 1990, researchers estimated that "outdoor" house cats and feral cats were responsible for killing nearly 78 million small mammals and birds annually in the United Kingdom. University of Wisconsin ornithologist, Dr. Santley Temple estimates that 20-150 million songbirds are killed each year by rural cats in Wisconsin alone. From http://library.fws.gov/bird_publications/songbrd.html#Cat (I don't have a pony in this race since I don't have a cat, but figured I'd share.) 8 agree But, you have hedgehogs! Those aren't boring! 2 agree It is the norm in the US. The UK seems to have different norms, probably due to the fact that walled in gardens are more common there and there are fewer predators that are dangerous to cats. I am aware that the RSPCA is hesitant to adopt to people who will not allow their cat outdoors, and it still seems odd to me since cars are still a danger. Different countries have different norms though. 0 agree Reply The UK also has stronger laws about not hurting a cat in your yard, even if it's not yours. It is expected that cats will be outside and they will roam. Here, if your cat is in someone else's yard … well, we technically have cruelty to animal laws, but overall you just have to hope they're not mean-spirited. And if they are, there's unlikely to be any penalty. 0 agree Reply I find it interesting that so many people are pro-outdoor cat, but pretty much no one is pro-outdoor dog or other pet. Why is that? To me, the problems with both are the same – outdoor animals are less safe, live shorter lives , can wreak havoc on wildlife, and can be nuisances to neighbors. 1 agrees Reply I think if you're really worried about these things, then don't have a cat. I think it's cruel to have a pet because you want entertainment but not let it live as close to it's natural life as possible. 14 agree Reply It is also not natural for my dogs to snuggle with me on the couch, but I hardly think that is cruel. Nor is it cruel for my 4 cats to live a safe life filled with windows, clean food and water, and cat trees instead of fights, predators, and disease. 5 agree Well, you say that… but I don't know anyone who keeps their dog inside permanently, and people seem to be suggesting that for the OP's cat. And lots of people have rabbits they keep outdoors. Smaller things, sure, not so much. I don't actually have any pets any more, so it's not something I worry about personally. It's just so interesting that the norms are so different! 1 agrees Reply I'm a vet so I can maybe answer that question Angela. Basically dogs are "infantized" versions of wild canids. Humans have bred and removed the domestic dog from the wild dog many times over. The cat however, is just one generation away from feral. Meaning, a cat can revert back to it's "wild side" much quicker and easier than a dog can, and indeed we see this in feral cat populations. Feral dog populations are not as common. Cat's can usually "take care" of themselves, whereas dogs depend on humans for the most part for both security, food and attention. Cats can usually get their own food if necessary, and can be indifferent to human attention, hence them being so pernickity at times! Hence I would have an outdoor cat, but not an outdoor dog. 22 agree Reply I think it is more the norm in the US, for sure. We've always had indoor cats in my family. I have had some friends who let their cats out, and when I was living in the country I knew a lot of people who had "barn cats", aka the mousers that they fed that slept in the barn but were free to come and go as they please. But country cats have to deal with things like feral dogs, coyotes and coydogs, and the occasional bear (well, there were bears, I don't know if they'd bother with cats) where I'm from, so it's never something we did. And when in a more urban area, there was the ever-present car risk. I wonder if it's safer for cats in the UK? Do you guys have anything that would be predacious to cats? (Other areas in the US have things like wolves, and other large cats like lynxes and mountain lions that might be a problem too, I imagine.) Is it really like unheard of to have indoor cats in the UK? It's interesting, because I know a fair few people in the US who give people who let their cats go outside some serious side-eye. A lot of people think some people only have indoor-outdoor cats so they don't have to deal with litter boxes, and that letting cats outdoors is irresponsible to cats and local wildlife. So the implication a lot of people make is that if you let the cat outside, you don't care about it as much. I'm not sure how I feel about outdoor cats, really, other than it not being something I'd do, though. But that's one of the arguments against it, at any rate. (Though, I'm sure lots of people with indoor/outdoor cats adore their kitties, so I'm not really comfortable with generalizing a whole group.) As to the OP, if you find out what to do with the long car-ride of a move, let me know. We might have to do that ourselves in a few years and I'm DREADING it. 0 agree Reply Well, obviously I can't speak for everyone. But I happened to bring up this comments thread with five friends yesterday at lunch – and when I said that in the US people often don't let their cats outside at all, none of them would believe me. 1 agrees Reply Oh wow, that's so weird! (I'm sorry, I just think these small cultural differences are just SUPER interesting.) 0 agree Here in Maine cats are prey for coyotes and fishers (large weasels), primarily. I imagine a fox might try to tackle a small cat, and the same MIGHT go for larger hawks or even owls and eagles. I know that growing up we lost many of our outdoor cats to the local fishers in the area. I'd say that on average, our cats probably lived about 3-4 years before disappearing. We've only had one cat that ever died of old age (at the rickety age of 15 or so), others would disappear at some point and that was that. Some vanished quite young, others might make it to eight or ten years. Because of this, I always had a lot of dread about letting our cats outside, and I would wake up terrified if I heard a fox barking outside at night (you should listen to a recording of a fox bark; very eerie). To this day I STILL have dreams about long-last cats returning home. Now an adult, I keep my own cats indoors unless they're on-leash with me or in an enclosed area like a barn. 0 agree Reply An indoor cat statistically will live much longer than an outdoor cat (especially an outdoor cat that isn't spayed/neutered) because the outdoors has so many hazards. Dogs, traffic, wild animals, toxins, harmful substances from neighbors' garbage (like chicken bones). If cats are NOT spayed/neutered, then obviously there is the reproduction issue, and the accompanying problem of strays and overpopulation. Many cities here in the US have ordinances that say that free-roaming cats MUST be spayed/neutered and have a collar with a license tag identifying them as an owned free-roaming cat. Some other cities also have leash-only laws, which say that cats may not roam free AT ALL. These laws are in place both to prevent an overpopulation of strays, to lessen the number of free-roaming cats that cause problems (footprints on cars, peeing in gardens, etc), and to protect natural wildlife. I don't want my kitty to die an untimely death by a car or by a predator like fishers or coyotes, nor do I want HIM killing songbirds and such for fun. So he stays inside. 1 agrees Reply I'm sure you've figured this out, but if she's not already microchipped, this would be a very good time! I know some cats won't "do" collars or tags but at least if she's chipped, and wanders off, anyone who picks her up will be able to find you. 5 agree Reply getting her chipped would be a good idea. She tends to remove her collar. We usually dont bother with it, since she spends most (if not all) all her time around the house even when she's outside. 0 agree Reply I think it depends on the temperament of your cat. Some cats (most, even) are really just concerned about a warm place to sleep and some food, other cats are really attached to a specific environment and will do anything in their power to get back to that place. Most people I know who have moved with outdoor cats had a smooth transition, but not all. My best friend moved with her indoor/outdoor cat a couple of years ago. She kept him inside for a while after the move to help him adjust, but unfortunately, the first time she let him out was the last time she saw him. He never came back. This is of course not a common occurrence, but you have to be braced for that possibility. 0 agree Reply You can ask your vet for a tranquilizer before your trip. They'll give you the correct dosage, and he'll be kind of groggy and sleepy the whole time. My mom traveled nine hours with her young, energetic fox terrier this way. 0 agree Reply I was hoping something like that was available. Do you know how expensive it is? I just know the car ride would freak her out more than anything else. 0 agree Reply Our vet gave us something for when we moved our two cats and extra doses just in case our flights were delayed, all together it was under $30 and worth every penny. On a side note, did you know that when flying with a cat in the cabin you have to remove your cat from their carrier and carry them through the metal detectors? Fun times… 0 agree Reply When flying, it's not recommended to do tranqs, at least by some vets, since the change in altitude can actually wreak havoc with the effect of the tranq. My kitty is an experienced flyer. I use WestJet when I need to travel with her and she has to be in a soft-sided carrier, under the seat in front of me. She might meow but she's quiet enough that the engine noise (we are always seated near the engines) covers it up. 1 agrees Reply If you get valium, give the kitty a test dose before leaving on your trip. Most cats calm down on it, but on some it has the opposite effect. 0 agree Reply Whatever "stuff" you have outside of your house, take some of it with you: Welcome mats, potted plants, even some of the gravel or bark. When you let the cat out of the house, it will smell and feel like home. 3 agree Reply Unfortunately it's moving out of my moms house, but im sure I could take some dirt or something with me 0 agree Reply Maybe ask your current neighbors to keep an eye out for the cat after you move, if you do decide to let her out. There was a neighbor-cat that used to visit my parents' house at least 5 days a week. When his owner moved across town, the cat apparently walked back to his old house… and when he found it wasn't his house anymore, he came to us instead. We sheltered and fed him until his owner picked him up. Of course, the cat did this whole process a second time, but then he seemed to get it. 1 agrees Reply We moved a couple of times with our indoor-outdoor cats. The biggest thing is for them to know where the food is, of course. I think the general recommendation is to keep them confined to a small area in the new place so they get used to it–and cats are generally super smart about learning to use the litterbox, since they tend to be naturally tidy. The cat I grew up with, who was a wild outdoor-indoor kitty for most of her life, has lived in four different houses, moving from a rural area into an urban one, and has done pretty well for herself. Now that she's ancient–18 years old!–she's transitioned to being mostly indoor, and has taken to using the litter box well. 0 agree Reply Definitely let your old neighbors know so they can keep an eye out if the cat tries to make it home — my partner's former housemates lost one of their cats to the next door neighbor when they moved (the neighbor was feeding him raw liver; definitely preferable to the kibble his owners were offering). He wandered back to the neighbor within the week. Those same friends have indoor/outdoor cats, and what they've always done is keep them inside for the first week (or however long it takes for their old man cat to start peeing on things that aren't in the litter box, which is how he expresses annoyance), and then one of them kind of gives the cats a tour of the yard, talking about how this is where they live now, and here's where the entrances are. It seems to work well for them. 2 agree Reply I think it's also important to recognize that your cat will be stressed, and that's normal. It does not mean the entire thing was a mistake. He may not eat for a day or so. One of mine expresses her stress at moving (she's done it 3 times) by hiding in a closet and making herself as flat as possible. We call it her flounder impression, although she looks more like a fuzzy bathroom rug! But she always recovers. So I would try to keep him inside until that first crazy stage passes and he starts acting more like himself. (This is different from the 2nd crazy stage when he'll start trying to get outside more.) 2 agree Reply I very much support the idea of using this move as an opportunity to transition your cat to indoor-only life! Heck, why not start early? Give you both some time for her to learn how to use a litter box! Best of luck with your move. 0 agree Reply A year ago I moved from my parents house in the country to a city house with my husband. I have 4 cats that came and went as they pleased through a window. They rarely used the litter box I had and were avid hunters. I can't bring myself to let them outside since I now live in a city. I thought the transition would be rough but they went along with it. I set up cat towers by windows so they could look outside and enjoy the sunlight. It took me awhile to figure out they needed toys now, though. Since they couldn't hunt anymore they were very bored and took it out on my husbands shoes. They've only recently become interested in the front door and it's only a vague interest. They've never attempted escape, despite the neighborhood cats taunting them through the windows. I hate not being able to let them run around outside anymore but I just couldn't live with myself if something bad happened to them and I could have prevented it. 0 agree Reply Have you thought of putting up bird feeders near the cats' windows? I have a hummingbird feeder and another full of mixed seeds. Our own four cats often sit in a row watching the action. The birds don't care – the hummingbird feeder is actually touching the window glass (I read that was the best way to keep the birds from flying into the window) so the cats and I get a much closer view than we otherwise would. 1 agrees Reply Our darling marmalade who was the king of the neighborhood had to transition back to indoor cathood about a year ago. He had been confined indoors due to an injury for about 3 months before the move so he was somewhat resigned to it. After the move we had to make sure to train ourselves to shut doors quickly and yell at guests to hang out in the doorway to smoke. We also made sure to get him several new toys and spend time each day to play with him so he gets lots of exercise. We got him a waterfall drinking bowl and it seems to get him to drink more water to replace the moisture he was getting from nibbling grass and bugs and stuff. He still tries to bolt if the door is open but he seems okay if he gets sufficient attention and exercise. He looooves the laser dot! Good luck! 1 agrees Reply My mom thinks our kitty should stay at her house and just adopt a new cat because the stress will be too much for her. I personally think she'd be happier in an only pet household (she refuses to leave my room when the dogs are out, so she only ventures into the rest of the house early morning and late nights), but my parents say she's doing fine there. However, I feel bad for her sitting by herself in my room most of the time. Do you guys still think I should transition her to an indoor home hours away, or let her stay where she is? =/ 0 agree Reply Most cats can adapt to being around dogs, it just takes them a while to realize the dogs just want to play with them not do them harm. Could you do a test run at the new place and if kitty seems too miserable being indoors (and you don't want to do outdoor type kitty at the new place) then let kitty stay with your parents (and dogs)? 0 agree Reply It's been years and she still won't go anywhere near the dogs unfortunately. The dogs are fine with the other cat but freak out when they do see her simply because she's never around them and they don't know her 0 agree Reply I would move her. Yes, she'll be really stressed for a while when she moves. Yes, there'll be accidents, and weird behaviour until she gets more used to it. And there is the very small possibility that she might disappear and you'd never see her again (though I don't think this is very likely – most cats manage it fine). But the alternative is leaving at your mum's where she's clearly unhappy with the dogs (how long have your parents' had their dogs for? If it's been a while, it won't get any better). And, more crucially, without you. She probably misses you something awful. I'd rather have a crazy stressed out cat for a while than a lonely miserable cat for a long time. 0 agree Reply They say she's doing fine but I know she only gets company early morning. Possibly night as well, but my family goes to bed pretty early. 0 agree Reply I just moved with my indoor when it's cold out/outdoor when it's nice cat and my method goes like this: Set up cat litter and feeding/cozy, sleep spaces in the new house as soon as possible. Feeding your cat as soon as possible from dishes they are familiar with is good. As soon as I'm able with my cat I take her out on her lead (she's a big cat and has a harness) to get a good smell of things (my cat, thankfully, gets used to wearing her harness after about half an hour and will behave normally; for that first half hour though she sulks and mopes like it's her job). This gives a good sense of what direction she will try to run in (she pulls the lead). Then for a day or two I let her out without the lead but follow her from a small distance so she can smell everything again and leave her scent all around the property. When she wants to go back home I make her lead the way a few times to make sure she knows which door is the right one. Hope everything here helps and the kitty moving proves to be the least stressful part! 0 agree Reply I have two cats, one who was an indoor/outdoor at one time. Until he disappeared for two weeks and came back with a busted leg. After he recuperated he was strictly indoor and has been for the last ten years. The other cat was shoved outdoors with no care until I took him, he does escape out every so often, and has to be caught or coaxed back in. We moved across state three years ago with both cats, and across town several years before that. They adapt, especially if kept in a room for a couple of days, fed and with a litterbox. Most cats will prefer one, as long as it is cleaned every day. (Really, would you want to use one if it wasn't?) It's just safer to keep them in, especially in the spring with all the baby birds! (Now if I could just get one of our dogs to leave them alone!) 0 agree Reply Another vote for transitioning to an indoor lifestyle. In addition to being safer for them and wildlife, it's also an issue of courtesy for me. We live in a pretty high density suburban hellhole of a neighborhood, and I'm pretty sure that everyone (but us) has at least 3 outdoor cats. They stalk the house, pee, and otherwise drive my well-adjusted and happy indoor-only kittehs absolutely freaking nuts. In turn, said well-adjusted indoor-only kittehs take their interloper frustrations out on one another, generally at 3am, on top of our sleeping personages. They only do that when a cat is stalking the house. Strange cats stalking the backyard also drive my 2 dogs insane. Being awakened at, again, 3 or 4am to a chorus of baying beagle and barking shepherd/collie is, shall we say, inappropriately invigorating at that hour. Suffice it to say, as someone who raised an indoor-only cat from kitten hood and successfully transitioned an escape artist outdoor stray, I find "but my cat is soooooooooooooo unhappy inside!" to be some serious weaksauce. If your cat is unhappy indoors, it's probably because they're bored. So do something to improve their quality of life. And, honestly, if you can't be bothered to do that, you probably don't need to have a cat–or any pet, for that matter. Cats need stimulus, preferably within the context of hunt-play. That does not need to come from being outside, actually hunting. It can be accommodated via you actually interacting with your pet. Because I'm sort of sick of being awakened at all hours in order to accommodate someone else's lack of initiative. 2 agree Reply With a parent in the Defence force, I moved a lot as a kid, and have moved a lot as an adult, most of those moves have involved moving with a cat. The car ride will be stressful for them, but having a towel or blanket in the cat cage that smells of you can help relieve the stress somewhat. Every time we moved we kept the cats inside for at least 2 weeks. They weren't always the happiest, but when one of them accidentally escaped he went missing for a week, so we kept up the 2 week rule with every other move. After 2 weeks, we started letting them out during the day while someone was home. Once they got their bearings, it was no problem! One of the cats moved many times and he was always fine. He also hated using the litter box, and NEVER used it normally, prefering to go outside, but even he would suck it up and use the litter when he was desperate. Moving the poop to the tray if they go elsewear is a good tip, the smell helps them realise they are supposed to go in there. Also maybe using dirt in the litter box so it is a bit more familiar to the cat. There will always be a bit of stress initially, but that will wear off as the cat settles in. 0 agree Reply I have no experience with an outdoor/indoor kitty move but I do have experience traveling with my kitty (we used to fly across the country 2-3 times a year when I visited my family. Since it's only a 4 hour drive, that's pretty doable. Here's what I did: 1) Take away food the night before travel. This will suck if your cat is a piggy like mine but it does reduce the chance of accidents. 2) My kitty pretty much went into stress shutdown when traveling (we have spent 24 hours traveling before due to snow storms). You can try offering water but your kitty may not be interested. 3) Definitely agree to put a familiar blanket, shirt, etc in the carrier. 4) If your cat has not been in the car before, I'd recommend keeping the cage closed. You do not want your kitty to freak out in the middle of the drive and claw you or get under the pedals. 5) If you plan to let your kitty out of the car for stretch/bathroom breaks, get a harness and leash and give your kitty time to get used to them before the trip. A harness is MUCH harder to get out of and larger kitties can use doggy harnesses. My tubby kitty has a very adjustable harness so she still fits. Once you arrive, I recommend putting kitty in a smaller, quiet space to start. The bathroom is not where you want your kitty (we looked after a friend's kitten and had to stash him in the bathroom, apparently it's hard to pee if you're a dude and there's a kitty wrapped around your ankles). But give them a space that is theirs, set up litter, food and water in that space, and let kitty adjust. Put them in the litter box, show them food and water, and just let them hide if they need to. When they are ready to explore more, you can start letting them through the house, just make sure that safe space is still accessible. As for indoor/outdoor, I'd just get a feel for your new living area. If there's a balcony, just consider if your kitty can jump out and whether they would be able to get back up/inside. If there are screens and your kitty will not be going outdoors, you may want to trim kitty's claws. It can take some practice but may reduce the screen damage if your kitty decides it's going out. When I lived in Montreal, I was told about the fact that there were people picking up cats found outdoors (or offering to pet-sit) and taking those kitties for testing purposes. Also be aware of licensing requirements in your new home. Your kitty may need to be registered with the city/town if they go outside and may be required to have ID. Definitely chip or tattoo your kitty if they hate their collar. 0 agree Reply Hm, she does like to claw at screens. We have a metal screen door at the house that she plucks on when she wants to be let in when she knows the dogs aren't around. 0 agree Reply My experience with cats is that they tend to get the idea of a new place being home within a few days, though I agree that a week or two is probably safer. We try to supervise our cats' first few trips out in a new area, until we feel like they've gotten the idea of where we live. What you said about your cat staying near home did resonate with me as a possible indication that she might stay very close to your new home as well. On the indoor/outdoor thing, I think cats are really different in their needs and abilities. My family includes 4 cats, one of whom absolutely needs to be outside a lot of the time for his mental and emotional health. Another was an outdoor cat in the past, but now just wants to stay inside where it's warm. One of our cats does need some extra attention and supervision if he's going to be safe (and not wreck things) outside, so he ends up staying in if we're not able to provide that. We're pretty protective of our cats, but I find that we're able to pretty well assess each cat's outdoor-safety skills based on knowing them. I think you are the best person to judge what will work for your cat. I did also notice a couple of things you said that I think might make the move easier. One is that she'd be the only cat in your new home – one of our cats became much more indoors of her own accord when we moved to a house where she just had more space to get away from the other cats. That's not to say that your cat will or should become indoor-only, but I think it might make staying in for any length of time a lot easier. The other is that it sounds like maybe you've already done some of the moving – the absolute hardest part of moving across state lines with 4 cats was dealing with all of them hiding on moving day. (Or I might have read your comment wrong – if you are packing boxes and your cat up all at once, I suggest patience and confining her early in the process.) I second using Feliway (you can also get it in a spray-on form, which is great for carriers), and keeping her in the carrier the entire trip. We often try to have a human who's not driving hang out with the cat(s) for car trips, but that's not always possible, and I think the cats basically hate it no matter what anyway. The second hardest part of moving for us was the drive. Settling into the new place was really not that bad. Oh, and on collars and microchips – I am a big fan of both. Microchips are great for when the cat inevitably pulls their collar off. What has worked best for us in terms of collars has been the clippy-type safety collars (rather than the sort of ball-shaped ones). The cats can take them off if they really want to, but they're less likely to just fall off. I do find that if they do stay on they have to be checked periodically to make sure they haven't fused shut :p . Collars with jingle-bells on them can give wildlife a slight edge from hunter cats, and collars with reflective strips can be great safety tools for cats who are out at night. Best of luck on your move! 1 agrees Reply I'm not sure which comment you saw (there's quite a few on here!) but she's never moved before. She found us back in 2005 and has been indoor/outdoor since. She tends to sleep and eat inside, and spend the day outside if its nice. Sometimes in the summer she sleeps outside a couple nights at a time which worries me! As for the car ride, my by-then-husband would most likely be making the drive with me, so one of us could hold her. Is it expensive to get a cat microchipped? 0 agree Reply I don't know where you live, but here it cost 7 dollars to get our cats/doggie microchipped. Call around to different vets and see, some of them offer specials. Microchipping is a wonderful thing…I'm a shelter volunteer and I've seen many happy microchip-caused reunions that would not have happened otherwise. 0 agree Reply I had an outdoor/indoor cat that we had to make indoor-only after he contracted FIV from a cat fight. He protested at first, but it was best for him. He frequently got into fights with other cats, so I didn't want him spreading it around to others or getting infections with a compromised immune system. We did have to keep an eye on him when going in and out, because sometimes he would try to sneak out. Every cat I've ever known will instinctively use a litter box, no training required. They like to bury their poo. I doubt you would have too much of a problem. If you're worried I'd maybe keep him in one room for a couple of days with the box and make sure he uses it. 1 agrees Reply We got very lucky. We adopted our cat from the local humane society and he was born a stray. He was about 6 months old when we got him and extremely fiesty. We still have not declawed him for fear of kitty depression. I think he would prefer to be outside on his own but at age 3 now he is very used to having the run of the house. Most cats understand litter boxes and shouldn't have a big problem learning to use it as they like to cover their messes with dirt. Sometimes we let Remy out on the porch (where we have coated wire put up for the dog) and he will sneak around like he's hunting but he comes right back in when we call. 0 agree Reply Did you move the cat? We are in the same situation moving our outdoor cat next week. He does not tolerate being confined. 1 agrees Reply No, we haven't moved yet. My sister took my room at my parent's house though, and the kitty had a hard time adjusting to going through the next room over, which only makes me worry more about moving her to a completely different location. As for your kitty, would some tranquilizers from the vet work? Having him sleep the whole way sounds like it might be a little easier on all of you. 0 agree Reply My family and I adopted a kitten from the shelter but that was 4 years ago. She is an indoor/outdoor cat. We are thinking of moving to a bigger apartment that actual has a really big yard! I'm also thinking of bringing the stray cat with me as well as I have kinda adopted him into the family plus I would hate to leave him behind since he was so skinny before we started to feed him! But I figured I would do this in small steps. We will bring our cat first into the new place and like she was as a kitten get her use to the house first, once she adjusted we smothered her paws in butter and let her go outside. I was really nervous letting her out the first time so I basically smothered the ground in butter so she knew which house it was. It worked! So now I'm hoping it'll work again if we do decide to move! As for the stray cat he is mostly an outdoor cat so with him it's just doing the butter technique and showing him where his food bowl will be. 1 agrees Reply Very interesting, thanks! 0 agree Reply I moved with an outdoor cat, a total free spirit whom I inherited from neighbours who first neglected him and then left him behind when they moved. He had lived in the area for over 10 years and I had to move house with him. He had never been inside, from my knowledge. Anyway, I kept him in the laundry for two days, draped a blanket over a chair and put some bedding underneath it so he had somewhere to hide, and put grass on top of the kitty litter, which he actually used. I fed him and gave him lots of pats. He was relatively relaxed with that set up after a while. After two days he went outside in the morning and bolted under the house, where he stayed. I left food by the entrance, which was eaten in the early evening, and by 10pm he emerged for a pat. He seems to have accepted the new place as his own in a short time frame! 1 agrees Reply Giving a cat a place to hide works so well! I honestly did it accidentally the first time- I was cat sitting, and they gave me a blanket from their house to have a familiar scent around. I draped it over a folding chair, thinking the cat would sleep on top of the chair. But he stayed in the little cat cave underneath. I think creating a hiding place is worth it because almost all cats want to hide when in a new location, and this way you'll still know where they are. 1 agrees Reply Good to know, thanks! 0 agree Reply Yes, my cat was instantly more relaxed when he had a place to hide (first under the chair, and then under the house). They are my major tips – somewhere to hide if indoors, and grass on the kitty litter if puss is not used to a litter tray 0 agree Reply Kirsten, have you moved yet? Please drop me an email, I am the Kitty Help Desk! I can help you… Plus I know ALL about moving outdoor cats, I have managed feral cat colonies and occasionally they have to be moved… there's a whole protocol! Let me know if you still need advice! Even if kitty is still at Moms… I can help with that too. 0 agree Reply I have not. Life's taken quite a few turns, but we're finally ready to move into a place. However, we've decided to hold off on pets, at least for a while, until we can get on our feet a little more. Kitty will stay at my mom's at least until we can afford a pet deposit and things like kitty food and litter. 0 agree Reply How is kitty doing at moms? Is he going outside? Does he seem to have adjusted ok? 0 agree Reply Kitty's always lived at mom's. She adopted us here 8 or 9 years ago. She seems to be her usual lazy self 0 agree Reply we moved our once mean blood drawing feral cat (took 2-1/2 yrs to pet him, now he is a lover boy!). he lived outdoors w/a cat door in our basement window (so separate from our 2 indoor cats). only used the litterbox once in 3 years. initially TNR-ed when feral (was going to be killed by vets because too mean/feral) since then goes ballistic if confined, tried to be crate or wonders into a new room by mistake. w/determination o the day of our move, I banketed him & got him to the vet (2nd scheduled vet apt, 1st one no success). surprisingly they took off the leather gloves and he did good! (so terrified he didn't move or hiss but peed poor thing). released him in the new house laundry room (coved the window w/cardboard so he wouldn't freak out and try to claw his way though although not possible). closed the door and pluged in night lights. we also brought his old smelly basement sofa from the old house he hid under it the whole time and his original feeding/watering bowls and blankets. a day later success! he ate/drank and used the litterbox! every night I would lay on the sofa, he would come out scared low to the ground and lay on my chest (are old established routine in the old house I would watch tv w/him in this manner). 2 days later he did pee once all over the sofa so I ripped off all the cushioning and covered the frame w/comforters. 2 months later he is fully happy and integrated w/my 2 cats! that's another story/process in itself. hope this story helps. 0 agree Reply I have too mature cats a male and female and they keep gettin on the cars bec ause they are cold. My parents want to get rid of them. I dont know what to do. Plus im moving soon and I want to know how to move with two outdoor cats not just one 0 agree Reply #1 take them with you! Don't abandon them when you move, they wont know how to survive without you if you've been feeding them. Thanks for considering taking them along! #2 Where do you live? Make them an easy shelter from the cold and that will keep them off the cars. You can make one from a shipping cooler or rubbermaid tub. As little as $15 total and super easy. Check out Alley Cat Allies (www.alleycat.org) for a million tips on caring for, moving, and sheltering outdoor cats!!! They are the nation's leading authority on caring for alley cats, so their site answers a lot of questions! Feel free to email me directly too, I can help with your questions and walk you through stuff, I've been doing this for years! Thanks for caring for the little dudes. Julie juliekgk at yahoo 0 agree Reply My parents' cats won't use the litterbox, but one of them was barred from going outside for a few days after some procedures at the vet, so we put dry leaves on top of the litter in the box, and that did the trick. Accident free. 0 agree Reply I have somewhat of a different dilemna. We live in a very secluded area on 5 acres in a country setting and unfortunately many people believe if they drop their cats off here, they will live happily ever after. With that being said, my family has taken care of these 6 orphans and they have adopted us for over a year now and they are outdoor cats that we have spayed and chipped . We are now moving but only up the road. While I'm happy about the new place being in about the same type of setting, I worry they will return to our previous house. Hopefully I can take a few of the suggestions I've read here and apply them. I'm just concerned. Yes, I realize that indoor cats live longer lives than outdoor cats. There's just no way I would keep six cats indoors. I really wish people would be responsible and take their 'unwanted' cats to shelters. Do they not realize it's cruel to leave them on their own regardless of their ability to hunt? I find this behavior plain stupid. That's why the feral cat population is overwhelmingly high. Thanks in advance for any suggestions as to how I will be able to keep them relatively close. BTW, our new place has a "doggie door" attached to the garage but unfortunately my laundry room is there. I'm thinking it may be a good start to help them begin to adapt. 0 agree Reply Sandy, do a google search on "relocating feral cats" and you'll find some good info. Alley Cat Allies is a great place to start. The #1 thing is to confine them at the new location for at LEAST 2 weeks. This can be in a cage, kennel, garage, shed, basement, whatever. Obvs make sure they are safe, have no escape routes, and are protected from temperature extremes and weather. The 2-4 week confinement helps them re adjust their internal compass to the new location as "home/shelter/food" instead of trying to run back to the old place. They'll be crabby for a few weeks being on lockdown but they'll thank you in the end! And thanks for taking on other people's cast aways and even taking them with you! You're a true gem! 0 agree Reply In Madison WI cats are not allowed outside except on a leash under penalty of the law! Nazis! 0 agree Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked * Comment Notify me of follow-up comments by email. No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. 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